The secret of getting ahead is getting started. -Mark Twain Ever have an idea that lit you on fire, had you up at night taking notes, energized you, filled you with desire or made you want to share it with others? With notes in hand you begin a plan and suddenly it seems more complex and you need to know more before you start. As time goes on, your passion dwindles and your inspiration becomes more of a goal than a desire. You start asking yourself if you can and should do this. So why is it so hard to get started? For me, it’s especially big projects that I struggle to start, like writing a book. It’s a huge undertaking and investment of hundreds if not thousands of hours. What if I get partially through and realize this idea is crap? What if I never finish? What if it doesn’t serve anyone? What if… the big starting delay. What if = fear A wise woman once told me this about what ifs, “You have 2 choices, follow it all the way down or ask yourself what if the opposite is true.”
Follow it all the way down.
- What if I write that book and realize that idea is crap? Then I will have to start something else.
- What if you have to start something else? Then I’ll have to do some soul-searching on where I am and what I need to do.
- What if you have to do some soul searching? Then I won’t feel productive.
- What if you don’t feel productive? I’ll feel useless and question my worth to my family and community.
What if the opposite is true?When I was introduced to this exercise, I was not a fan. Playing devil’s advocate to the shadow part of ourselves never is easy. The shadow doesn’t want to be seen. You see taking the opposite would stop each step in it’s tracks, but let’s imagine we had each question individually.
- What if I write the book and it’s absolutely awesome?
- What if I finish early?
- What if it serves millions?