Boundaries are about self-care. Just like any living thing, we all have a need for some personal space. How people approach your personal space whether it be physically or verbally depends on you.
When I talk about boundaries, I mean internally and externally.
Internally, we need to have boundaries with how we are going to treat ourselves. Are we going to call ourselves nasty names or celebrate learning a new lesson? It’s a choice in self-care. I can choose to shame myself or see the gift – it can’t be both.
When I model that for others, I am setting an expectation of how I want to be treated. If I act a martyr, they will support that role. If I carry myself with grace, they will treat me with more grace.
Slow learners need strong boundaries
There are always slower learners in the world that won’t necessarily take notice and follow in step. It’s necessary in these cases to make boundaries. Have a conversation about your expectations and what you want. Just keep in mind, we don’t always get what we want in life. If you don’t get what you want, you can choose to limit your relationship with that person. It’s not easy. As we mature and grow, we may move away from certain people and towards others. It’s part of following your vibe and it’s ok.
Boundaries are acts of true self-care. It’s making the statement that you deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated, by yourself and others.