How We Give Our Power Away

This past Sunday we had an inspiring conversation about how we give our power away and the keys to regaining your power back.

What steals your power? Netflix? Time? Other people? Media? Circumstances?

We talked about ways we know when we’re giving our power away. Phrases like ‘can’t’, ‘but’, ‘I will be happy when xx’ happens’ and ‘I don’t have time to do what I really want’. We also talked about how blame and comparing ourselves to others can lead us to feeling pretty powerless.

So what can we do?

We came up with some keys tips to dealing with feeling powerless. Continue reading “How We Give Our Power Away”

How Netflix Sucks My Power

How do you give your power away?

We all give it to something sometimes. This past Sunday we discussed many different ways we give up power. From saying ‘can’t’ to focusing on blame rather than power, we have all offered our power away to shirk responsibility or hide from the shame of making a mistake.

Since that show, I’ve been thinking about how I give my power away. How can I move faster toward what I want instead of spending time on things that don’t bring me the growth both personally and professionally? Which brings me to:

My friend, my foe: NETFLIX.

For an introvert like me, Netflix is like the best thing including sliced bread. I don’t have to leave to even go to a Blockbuster now and I can get entire runs of shows that I would Continue reading “How Netflix Sucks My Power”

Summer. Delicious. Nourishing. Connection.

Some of the words I love and relate to summer – perhaps my favorite season. It reminds me of untamed growth and late nights and friends. It also reminds me of my garden and the fruits it bears from now until late fall.

Summer is one of the reasons I made my shift towards health. I spent several mostly in bed because I was ill. It was my favorite season and my health was preventing me from enjoying it the way I wished. There were a couple summers I didn’t even see the beach which is a glaring indicator I was not enjoying life.

I bring this up because many people tell me that they don’t want to work on their health because they want to ‘enjoy life’. Yet when I ask them why they aren’t out there ‘enjoying life’ they tell me they don’t want to go to the beach because they don’t like the way they look or they don’t have the energy to do the things they want. So is this really enjoying life?

Health doesn’t have to be complicated or restrictive.

Honest. It’s more about making conscious choices and focusing on what you really want.

The first step is being aware.

free2weekjournalfbIt’s not about tracking calories, it’s about being holding ourselves in honesty. It’s about looking at data. It’s about being objectively curious about what we do to our bodies and how they react. It’s looking at cause and effect and correcting course.

That’s why I am offering a FREE download of the first two weeks of my ‘Living Your Best Life Journal’. It’s a 12-week journal that offer simple, effective steps to health. You’ll enjoy 2 weeks of tracking and simple lessons in health. There’s also daily tips and inspirational quotes to motivate you and coloring pages to encourage your creativity.

Download the free 2 week Living Your Best Life Journal’ now.

Health is important to enjoying life. It’s not a barrier. Knowing our own bodies and how to treat them to get the most out of life is wellness. Get to know yours better with this free download.

Once I have over 100 downloads, I’ll offer an additional bonus to go with it!

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Being in our bodies

The first Sunday night show was this past week and we kicked it off with Rosalyn Renay and Jennifer Espinosa-Goswami. We talked about being ‘in your body’ and what that means to us.

For me, I remember being a little girl and running and jumping and tumbling. I felt strong and light and energized. I used all of my body, not just my brain like I can tend to do now. Of course, that was before cell phones and even more brain stimulation that we have now.

Sometimes, I think we forget what it feels like to be in our body. So do yourself a favor. Wherever you are, take 1 minute to do a body scan. From toes to the hairs on your head check in with each body part with a big breath. Kind of like this: Continue reading “Being in our bodies”

Why I’m excited to turn 40!

I’m turning FORTY this year.

It seems like just yesterday I was panicked about turning 30 and here passes a whole 10 more years.

But I’m not panicked this year. In fact, I am celebrating this whole last summer of my 30s.

So do I suddenly love aging? Well, I have to admit, I’m not a huge fan of grey hair or the crinkles that are beginning to show on my face, but that’s all minor. What I love is that I feel better at 39 3/4 than I ever felt at 30. Continue reading “Why I’m excited to turn 40!”

Remembering to celebrate and enjoy

I hope you remember to enjoy the good days.

Life can be a struggle at times and finding the flow can be a challenge. We’ve all given up small pleasures at some point for big dreams or goals. We’ve  spent time surviving and dreaming of sunny days that alluded us in order to stay focused and get our work done.

Often, it’s successful too. It can be beneficial or even necessary to sacrifice and survive for periods of time in order to find the flow while managing new circumstances. Struggle happens, but my question is –

What do you do when survival is over or you get ‘there’?

Do you honor it with grace and celebration or do you move quickly to another goal without taking the time to be humble and grateful for your success?

We can apply this to big dreams like a degree or finding your soulmate, or to everyday things like enjoying the sunny days by honoring them with intention and gratitude.

backyardI am reminded today to take time to really enjoy and thrive because the sun is shining, the temperature is perfect and I have the freedom to enjoy it. This is thriving after a long, long, cold winter cooped up in the house and working my butt off. I make the choice to take time to enjoy it now, but it wasn’t always this way.

Ten years ago I would have complained about the winter and then when the sun came out, I’d make a million other reasons I couldn’t enjoy the gift of spring. I was too busy, it’s going to rain on my day off, I have to stay focused on my new project and on and on.

The truth is, we can make time for anything we choose to.

Today, I choose sunshine, love and gratitude. Yes, I have a pile of projects I am working on and I could stay focused on the goal, but I’m choosing making time to honor the gifts offered to me — and today that is the sunshine. The work will get done at my creative, abundant pace because I am enjoying my creative, abundant life and that will guide my work when I return to it.

We have to remember to consciously and intentionally enjoy the awesomeness of the journey, not just momentary goals. It’s what makes the other, not-so-awesome days worthwhile.

What’s the Universe offering you today? What is thriving in your life? Take a moment to treasure it.

Having trouble finding what’s thriving in your life? Don’t get disheartened. I’m working on a free mini-course on getting our power and thriving spirit on. It’s coming.

P.S.S. If you can’t wait, don’t. Let’s talk now. Email me at christina@invitingshift.com and let’s set up a quick chat to see if we can get you some clarity.

Scarcity vs Abundance: Book Excerpt

From Inviting Shift:

One of the biggest factors in determining success, courage and shift is the perception we have between scarcity and abundance.

Scarcity: insufficiency or shortness of supply; dearth

Abundance: an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply

By these definitions, we may think that those who have more are abundant thinkers and those who have little are scarcity thinkers.

The dominant perspective among these two often has little to do with what we have. There are both scarcity thinkers in both the wealthy and poor, just as there are abundant thinkers among both.

When it comes to scarcity thinking, there is always this underlying current of not having enough. Scarcity focuses on survival which is triggered by fear. It often feels like something is lacking, or that happiness can only happen when you reach the next goal. In the meantime, you make a lot of sacrifice along the journey in order to reach your next destination and hope when you get there, you’ll be happy. Whether you succeed or don’t, you soon realize, it’s not enough either. That’s scarcity thinking, or in other terms, fear-based thinking.

How you notice a scarcity thinker: There’s a goal before happiness. Look for phrases like, “I’ll be [insert conditional phrase here… happy/relaxed/satisfied/do] that thing that’s good for me when…” They complain a lot and seem to struggle with shift because it’s uncertain, so they’ll often try to hold off changing which only makes shift more challenging and costly. Scarcity thinkers are often anxious because they believe they just won’t have enough whether that is energy, money, power, love, worth or intelligence.

Abundance feels much different.

When I read the definition of abundance, it feels like thriving. We remain open to opportunities and know that giving and collaborating are the ways to attract more abundance. Abundance has an undercurrent of freedom to make choices in alignment with our true desires. Abundance is knowing our true worth and enjoying each moment, not putting off feeling good until the work is done. Abundance has amazing trust in the Universe that everything will work out, and self-trust to show up and do the work in the meantime. Abundance is triggered by gratitude.

How you notice abundant thinkers: They practice gratitude. They truly believe that everything happens for a reason and are open to receiving all of life’s gifts, even if they don’t come in the packaging they expected. They may even seem care-free (or even careless to a scarcity thinker) about seemingly intense situations. They are people who want to lift everyone up because they know there’s enough for everyone.

So where’s your focus?

We all have times we are living on either side of the line. Overall though, there is a side we define ourselves by. What’s your side?

If you are a scarcity thinker, don’t be discouraged. I grew up in a highly scarcity thinking household and held onto those beliefs for over 30 years. I manifested never having enough money. I would see things I’d want and constantly tell myself, “I don’t have money for that.” I noticed as I got older, money became time. Then, I never had enough time. I replaced my words with, “I’d love to do that but I don’t have time.”

I didn’t know at the time that I was creating stories about all the things I should be doing and should buy. I was constantly telling myself, “There is never enough.”

Then a mentor said to me, “If you tell yourself you’ll never have enough time, you never will. You will make sure that is so.”

I thought about how I filled my calendar. Sure chunks of time were taken up with work and family responsibilities, but there were many things I was doing that were no longer serving me. There was a volunteer position I didn’t mind doing, but found no real passion in. So I let someone else step into that position. There was a lot of time I was giving to people who drained my happiness tank. So I stopped giving them my time and happiness.

Now when something comes along that interests me, “I am choosing not to prioritize this activity high on the list now, but when I really feel called to do it, I will have time.” Or, “I have time for everything that needs to get done” as a way to relieve anxiety when I feel overwhelmed.

We are more powerful than we give ourselves credit for. We unconsciously manifest whatever we tell ourselves over and over again. Our brain, although a magnificent and mysterious organ, is also able to be tricked into believing anything we choose to focus on – whether that be lack or a bounty – it just has to be a consistent message we tell ourselves. So why not have it think useful, abundant thoughts that serve us rather than thoughts of how we lack?

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