How to Find Purpose Through Pure Love and Confidence

Guest post by Barbara Iuliano:

Your purpose is just as desperate to find you as you are to find it.

Life is such an intricate yet fascinating journey, isn’t it? We rise up and climb the highest mountains while simultaneously hitting the rockiest of bottoms. Cardiology gives us the best metaphor to describe this, life is a healthy ECG transmission.

A lot of us spend years embarking on irrational purpose-finding-expeditions, only to realize that our purpose was within us all along. Don’t get me wrong, the human spirit of inquisition has long been imprinted in most human beings at a cellular level. Which is without a doubt, a treasured genetic gift passed down from our ancestors. The problem is not the excursion itself, but the underlying reasoning for its boarding.

Passion and purpose should never be the destination of your journey, because in life’s journey there simply is no certainty in our final destination.

There is no need for complicating things, if our heart’s beating and our lung’s breathing, we are living our purpose. Of course, along with the gift of being alive comes: love, altruism, growth, lessons, accomplishments, desires, creation, and shift. Which are only the byproducts of being present and owning our journeys, not the alleged finish line.

Without being present and digging deep within our own essence, we miss the frantic call of our innate zealous purpose.

I spent years trying to find out what I was good at and what the reasoning for my existence was.

But after so many ups and downs, I learned a big lesson.

We are allowed to be great at many things and we are permitted to be here for more than one reason.

Some days we’re here to converse with a friend who is need of our ears, while others we are meant to transcend and discover new epiphanies with our soulmate. Some times we may be destined to find strength through the turmoil, while others we are fated to smile and indulge in the beauty of it all.

As we take our next breath, we are living our purpose.

So don’t wait until you ‘find’ it to start living the life of your dreams. It is completely unnecessary because life is happening as you read.

There will never be a perfect moment for shift, so you’ve got to decide right now, is this really what you want?

There is only one way to answer this question- out of love. If you respond with a “yes this is what I want because the alternative could be worst”, your answer is based out of fear and it is also wrong. If you instead believe that it may at times be difficult, but whatever you are going through is really what you want, then you are making a decision out of pure love.

Which brings me back to my initial point, purpose and passion find us through the most mundane daily decisions, we just have to decide from the depths of our hearts and trust ourselves along the way.

About Barbara:

IMG_9420 copyBarbara Iuliano is a certified life and confidence coach, currently studying Mind-Body Transformational Psychology at the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts.

As the founder of her coaching practice Starland Coaching (, Barbara empowers women like herself to lead the lives they always dreamed of but never thought possible.

She recently embarked on a mission to help female entrepreneurs get confident in front of the camera. In her new challenge, The Art of Video Confidence, she helps them bust through insecurities, deal with critics, and overcome perfectionism and procrastination.

Barbara also spoke to us about one of her shifts, you can find that conversation here.


2 Comments Add yours

  1. Christine says:

    Beautifully written post! Thank you for sharing this. I have been thinking about this topic for a while so really loved reading your thoughts.

    Liked by 1 person

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