Control What You Can

“Folks are usually as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

-Abraham Lincoln

I spent a lot of rough times in my 20s. Looking back, it was mostly because I tried to controlling the situations instead of myself. The truth is in any given circumstance, we can control only 2 things – our reactions and our attitude. We can’t control what other people do or say, or even how things will happen. There’s always unexpected plot turns Continue reading “Control What You Can”

Inviting Shift (Or A-has in Action)

As with everything in life, there is a cycle to shifting our perspective, habits, growth and experience. The a-ha is only the part of the cycle. It’s an important part, but true shift is the a-ha in action.

So let’s discuss the cycle of shift from the ‘before’ to the ‘after’.

Something Ain’t Right

New shift starts at a point I call ‘something ain’t right’. We notice that we feel more stressed than we want to, we are running into challenges, something feels off, you lack excitement in getting out of bed or some desire is not being met. It could be you have no clue what it is or you know and fell stuck. This is when we know shift is coming. Continue reading “Inviting Shift (Or A-has in Action)”

(Selfishly) Spread Love Everywhere

When I was in middle school, I had pen pals. People I’d never met that I would write letters to and we would share interests and major moments. There was something very special about sending and receiving those letters. I realize that was a different time and now it would be scary to offer that much information to a stranger, but it’s a favorite memory of mine because it reminds me that even I have a underlying need to have genuine connection with others. Continue reading “(Selfishly) Spread Love Everywhere”

Is perfection killing your creativity?

When I was a little girl I was a dancer. Almost since I could walk, I was dancing. I loved music and it moved me deeply. I was excited to have lessons and my first tutu. I excelled so they put me in competition. I did well and was even competing in higher age groups, however the more awards I won, the less I really enjoyed dancing.

You might think it would be the opposite. The trophies were a marker of the moments of success. Yet, the more I won, the less I wanted to dance. By 11 I completely quit dancing. Continue reading “Is perfection killing your creativity?”

We are creations, not discoveries

We create who we are, we don’t discover it. We are who we consciously (or unconsciously) choose to become.  Rediscovering implies that you are nostalgic or looking for something you once had.

I hate to be the one to break it to you if you are looking to relive some old times, but you ain’t ever getting whatever ‘it’ is back. You are different now, circumstances are Continue reading “We are creations, not discoveries”

Making ‘What If…” Work for You

The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

-Mark Twain

Ever have an idea that lit you on fire, had you up at night taking notes, energized you, filled you with desire or made you want to share it with others? With notes in hand you begin a plan and suddenly it seems more complex and you need to know more before you start. As time goes on, your passion dwindles and your inspiration becomes more of a goal than a desire. You start asking yourself if you can and should do this.

So why is it so hard to get started? For me, it’s especially big projects that I struggle to start, like writing a book. It’s a huge undertaking  and investment of hundreds if not Continue reading “Making ‘What If…” Work for You”