Control What You Can

“Folks are usually as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln I spent a lot of rough times in my 20s. Looking back, it was mostly because I tried to controlling the situations instead of myself. The truth is in any given circumstance, we can control only 2 things – our…

Inviting Shift (Or A-has in Action)

As with everything in life, there is a cycle to shifting our perspective, habits, growth and experience. The a-ha is only the part of the cycle. It’s an important part, but true shift is the a-ha in action. So let’s discuss the cycle of shift from the ‘before’ to the ‘after’. Something Ain’t Right New…

(Selfishly) Spread Love Everywhere

When I was in middle school, I had pen pals. People I’d never met that I would write letters to and we would share interests and major moments. There was something very special about sending and receiving those letters. I realize that was a different time and now it would be scary to offer that…

Is perfection killing your creativity?

When I was a little girl I was a dancer. Almost since I could walk, I was dancing. I loved music and it moved me deeply. I was excited to have lessons and my first tutu. I excelled so they put me in competition. I did well and was even competing in higher age groups, however…

We are creations, not discoveries

We create who we are, we don’t discover it. We are who we consciously (or unconsciously) choose to become.  Rediscovering implies that you are nostalgic or looking for something you once had. I hate to be the one to break it to you if you are looking to relive some old times, but you ain’t…

Boundaries create a cycle of self-care and self-love

Boundaries are about self-care. Just like any living thing, we all have a need for some personal space. How people approach your personal space whether it be physically or verbally depends on you. When I talk about boundaries, I mean internally and externally.

Making ‘What If…” Work for You

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. -Mark Twain Ever have an idea that lit you on fire, had you up at night taking notes, energized you, filled you with desire or made you want to share it with others? With notes in hand you begin a plan and suddenly it seems more complex…

Stop and See Clearly

Sometimes we have to stop to get ahead. I have a strong warrior. If you have a strong warrior, you can relate when I say blinders-on and full-steam is the only tempo we naturally know. It’s a beautiful quality that keeps me fiercely motivated and laser beam focused. I get shit done. It’s one thing people…

Find Your Wisdom

Whenever we choke down the feelings, ignore them, deny them or ‘suck it up’, we minimize their meaning and value. Sure it may be necessary to maintain composure, but they still need to be dealt with at some point.

Fear comes with risk

It’s that feeling you get right before the adrenaline kicks in. That feeling when you know you are doing something big – the crazy mix of freaky scary and crazy excitement rolling around your gut. So if you want to dream big but your fear is stopping you, know two things:

Hope is a job.

Hope takes conviction, consistency and passion. Hope doesn’t mean there isn’t a plan, hope is the thread that holds the plan together. It feeds you when you are hungry and motivates you when you are lost.

Living a Dream is Hard

It’s hearing one of the people I look up to admires my work and crying alone on the bathroom floor in the same day. It’s challenging. It’s sweet. It’s sour.